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Thursday, July 16, 2009

TRUST??? GOOD FRIEND??

Can some one tell me the definition of trust?? and also what a good friend is???

this is what i have found in the dictionary:

1 a: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something b: one in which confidence is placed

2 a: dependence on something future or contingent : hope b: reliance on future payment for property (as merchandise) delivered : credit <bought furniture on trust>

As for good friend’s part, (this is just my definition)

- Friends will not threaten each other using their weakness and also the stuff they given to them, the times they have together

-Friends will not talk much of money that they have spend on each other

The good friend:

respects your Childs opinion.
has their own interests outside of your child.
acts like they and your child are equals.
is honest with your child and others.
doesn’t criticize.
supports your child in their activities.
has similar interests.
has similar values.

If you believe that your child is involved in a bad friendship help them evaluate the friendship by asking them questions like:

Does your friend make you feel good?

The bad friend:

always wants things done their own way.
is jealous of any other relationships or friendships your child has.
is critical of your child and of others.
doesn’t give your child any space and always wants to be with them.
acts like they are better than your child in some way.
may lie to your child and others.
encourages your child to make bad choices.
has different values than your child.
uses your child.

On the flip side good friends act differently.

If you believe that your child is involved in a bad friendship help them evaluate the friendship by asking them questions like:

Does your friend make you feel good?
Do you ever wonder if your friend says bad things about you behind your back?
Does your friend ever ask you to do things that you are uncomfortable with?
Does your friend make you feel like you are not as good as they are?
Does your friend not like it when you hang out with other people?
Does your friend ask you to contribute more to the relationship?

The question in red answer is yes and i think it is more towards you more than my other friend.

reference:http://www.thecutekid.com/parenting/good-bad-friendship-characteristics.php

Recently, i feel that you have changed, you changed almost to a very different person which i feel that i don’t really know, i feel that I have i don’t know you anymore. Your thinking and your mind concept is what i really cant take it, and the lies, or words that you have say, i feel that i have lost all the trust for you.

I wonder if we can really still be friends?

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